Real You Revolution Recovery Coaching & Intervention Services
  • HOME
  • ABOUT
  • SERVICES
    • RECOVERY COACHING
    • EXECUTIVE RECOVERY COACHING
    • FAMILY SUPPORT SERVICES
    • FAQ
  • TESTIMONIALS
  • RYR Blog
  • DANIELLE'S JOURNEY
  • CONTACT

Danielle's Journey

What To Do When Your Loved One Is In Treatment

4/20/2015

1 Comment

 
Picture
One of the biggest mistakes I see people make when their son, daughter, spouse, parent, etc. is in treatment for addictive behaviors is forget about the work they need to do on themselves.  It is very easy to get caught up in the drama of what to say when Aunt Joan asks where Suzie is or why brother Bill is blaming his parents for letting his sister’s problem get so bad.  But here is the reality, none of this actually matters and it is completely counterproductive to the family getting well.  We can only control what we can control and if we want to be supportive to the family member dealing with addiction we need to do all of the work we possibly can on ourselves until they return and then beyond.  This includes reading books on understanding addiction, seeking out family counseling and coaching (ideally not to be combined), attending appropriate support groups, and being able to get brutally honest with ourselves.  “Suzie” has just committed to going to treatment…typically THE single most courageous and profound decision someone can have on their life and a family legacy.  The rest of the family needs to do some of the same work.  If you want to understand what your loved one is dealing with, try giving up one of your crutches for a week, be it sugar, exercise, etc.  Journal on your feelings and emotions during this period and reflect on the idea of someone telling you this decision has to be permanent.  Then go into a candy shop where everyone is promoting the use of sugar (as our society promotes the use and abuse of alcohol) and acknowledge your resolve after the fact. Scary, isn’t it? Overwhelming? This is just a tiny snapshot of what your loved one is dealing with and will continue to work through when they return home.  There is a lot of commitment that has to go into getting well.  My question to families is if you can’t even read the 3 books recommended and commit to the necessary support groups and assistance twice a week, how do you expect your loved on to do it every day? And my response to that is you can’t!  

  RealYou Revolution, LLC. is New England's premier resource for cutting edge                                                     substance use disorder services.

     Advanced Intervention - Sober Companions - Recovery Coaches - Family Support Services - Case Management -DUI/OUI Support - Anger Management Assistance - Food Addiction -Self Esteem Development - Anxiety Management

1 Comment
http://livecustomwriting.com/ link
5/23/2016 01:07:07 pm

The support is very important and necessary factor in the period of drug treatment. This approach will greatly facilitate the recovery of the patient.

Reply



Leave a Reply.

    Danielle Boland Recovery Coach

    about the master coach

    Danielle, the Founder & Master Coach of RealYou Revolution, is a woman in long term recovery with a passion for helping others overcome their own personal demons  – whatever they may be.

    View my profile on LinkedIn


    Archives

    May 2018
    July 2016
    December 2015
    October 2015
    September 2015
    May 2015
    April 2015
    February 2015
    January 2015
    December 2014
    November 2014
    October 2014
    September 2014
    August 2014
    July 2014



    Categories

    All
    Addiction
    Addictive Behaviors
    Alcoholic
    Alcoholism
    Amber Valletta
    Athlete
    Boundaries
    Brene Brown
    Craving
    Dealing With Addiction
    Drinking
    Drinking Problem
    Drink Too Much
    Drug Addiction
    Drug Addiction Statistics
    Drug Use
    Drunk Driving
    Early Sobriety
    Eating Disorders
    Exercise
    Family Coaching
    FB:app
    Fear
    Feeling Our Feelings
    Feelings
    High Functioning Alcoholic
    How Drug Addicts Think
    How To Overcome Addiction
    How To Stop Addiction
    Intervention
    Interventionist
    Intervention Services
    Normal Drinking
    Overdose
    Prevention
    Problem Drinkers
    Recovering From Addiction
    Recovery
    Recovery Coach
    Recovery Coaches
    Recovery Coaching
    Recovery Month
    Recovery Support
    Relapse
    Self-Sabotage
    Self Worth
    Service In Recovery
    Shame
    Signs Of Alcoholism
    Sober Companions
    Sobriety Coach
    Sobriety Coach For Mothers
    Solutions To Drug Abuse
    Spice
    Substance Abuse
    Substance Use Disorder
    Synthetic Marijuana
    Tommy Rosen
    Treatment
    Types Of Addiction
    Understanding Addiction
    Voices Of Hope Radio
    Wicked Sober
    Your Highest Potential

    RSS Feed

Location

What Our Clients Are Saying

“I've been working with Danielle for three years now and I would be lost without her. She has changed my life in immense ways. Danielle has made my sobriety a priority and she has been a support to me whenever I've needed her. ​She has helped me see the light on the darkest of days and I am forever grateful to her.”


~ Grammy Nominated Songwriter/Singer, Age 27

Follow Us On Social Media:

  • HOME
  • ABOUT
  • SERVICES
    • RECOVERY COACHING
    • EXECUTIVE RECOVERY COACHING
    • FAMILY SUPPORT SERVICES
    • FAQ
  • TESTIMONIALS
  • RYR Blog
  • DANIELLE'S JOURNEY
  • CONTACT