The Power Of Example In Your Life

Because I was making a ton of money and life looked good from the outside, it was easy to tell myself the addictive behaviors weren’t that bad.  The turning point came when I decided I deserved more from the world and the world deserved more from me.  Although my life was “ok”, it was by no means enviable (especially on the inside) and I always believed there had to be so much more.  One of the most valuable things I did was identify at least 4 women who had what I wanted.  This list of wants included confidence, serenity, financial freedom, and happiness, just to name a few.  I made little progress going into a 12 step meeting early on and comparing myself to all the people I either didn’t relate to or thought I was better than in some way.  Humility has been a critical life skill, but that’s a whole other blog topic.  What did work for me was going to different meetings until I could find that handful of women who I aspired to be more like.  Something as simple as spending time with them, listening (and talking way less) to what worked for them in their life, and emulating more of their mindset and actions was the “fake it till you make it” strategy I needed.  And guess what, you don’t just find them in a 12 step meeting, although it was easier for me to find people there with the serenity I was looking for, who also knew how to do something I was still figuring out.  Instead of obsessing about what you don’t want to give up, obsess about what you want to become!!! I still make sure to always have that handful of exceptional people to learn from.   I do that by meeting new people all the time and showing up fully present for my life.  We are never beyond learning. To kick start your own admiration campaign, here are just a few Awesome Women Who Don’t Drink or Get High.

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